Decisions, Decisions

One of the nice things about being on feis suspension is the ability to explore opportunities and events we would otherwise skip due to attending an Irish dance competition. Over the past several months we have enjoyed going to picnics, birthday parties, festivals and have on occasion run into people from our previous dance schools. For the most part people from our original school have been friendly and warm but there have been some who are less than civil. This was the case last week when I ran into members of both our now former ID schools and I must confess that the behavior of these individuals saddened me – especially when “adults” choose not to acknowledge a 10-year-old child.

I think what some people fail to understand is while this may have been a personal decision on the part of my family to switch Irish dance schools it was more importantly a business decision.  We were not happy with the quality of training and service at our first ID school and the next school we tried was not a good fit for our family so we went to a school that gives the service we are all looking for. Plain and simple. If you are not happy with your dentist, auto mechanic, lawn care provider, cell phone service, etc do you stay with them? No. You take your business to another company who provides the service and quality you want. It’s not personal – it’s business

Several weeks ago I received a message through Facebook from a mom who was upset with me because I didn’t say goodbye to her and other families who “had considered me friend and family for five years”. The fact is I had contacted (and received messages from) several friends when we switched schools which leads me to another point. We left the school – we didn’t move out-of-town and communication goes both ways. Truthfully I had my reasons for not contacting this particular mom. The tone and attitude of her message and subsequent texts only confirmed what I suspected her reaction to our leaving would be.

It’s strange to me that some people have chosen to take our decision as a personal offense and either ignore us or attack me personally. My daughter said we should expect it because Irish dance has essentially become a sport and people are very loyal to their teams. My husband had a different perspective most of which I can’t print here but his basic thought was that adults should behave with more maturity but unfortunately this isn’t always the case. 

I have to remind myself that only a few bad apples ruin the bunch.  Labor Day we went to the Ohio International and Celtic Festival and knew there was a strong possibility of running into people from our original ID school and others we know through Irish dance. Thankfully those we saw were friendly, warm and happy to see us.  The contrast  in this weekend’s events was a good lesson for my daughter with whom I have spoken about the attitudes we might encounter and how she should behave.  I explained she should smile and say hello and if others choose not to respond that is their decision and we did nothing wrong in making ours.  It’s business – not personal. There’s a difference.

Til Next Time – Slainte!


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